Diabetic Recipes
Several weeks ago Dad's cousin and her husband visited from Missouri. After dinner we were having an engaging discussion about our family.
L's daughter is apparently something of a dare devil. L was telling us how she found out from her daughter's blog how she had done something dangerous (I think it was jumping off a cliff, but I'm not entirely certain). Mom jumped in joking that she has found out more than she wanted to know about me from my blogs and has learned not to read them anymore.
She looked at me almost mournfully and I suspected it was because she enjoys reading what I write. So to have to force herself to not read what I write so she doesn't freak out about what I'm saying is, I'm sure, difficult to say the least.
As you know, I'm pretty forthcoming with my diabetes-related faults and shortcomings. Having this disease is not easy and being able to come to a community like dLife and essentially vent and talk about things that people like me can relate to is very cathartic. I know I can come here and say that my sugars have been high and it's all my fault and I know I won't be judged because you've all been there and understand that diabetes is part of life, not the other way around.
But ever since the day Mom sent me a scathing email in response to a blog post I made about not focusing on my health at that moment and not really taking care of myself at that time I've been a little more reserved about what I blog about. I can't think of a specific instance when I had a really hot topic to write about and didn't because I didn't want to face the potential of upsetting someone in my family, but I know there have been times when I've chosen my words especially wisely so as not to rock the boat.
We say here all the time that it's hard for non-d people to understand what we go through on a daily basis. And since it's hard for them to understand, it can be equally difficult for them to relate to what we say in our blogs.
So I'm not the only one! I know I've discarded entire blogs for fear of upsetting my mom, and have also carefully worded things with her in mind. I have yet to receive any scathing emails, but then I haven't been blogging so long so I'm sure my day will come.
I can very well relate to this. As a grandmother myselt and a diabetic for about a year, I have not told my mother about my condition because of what her reaction would be. It is difficult to feel that I cannot share this with family.
yes i too have blogs and love it but i write as a way to tell others about diabetes you not be scared to tell anyone it ok to have diabetes you need to know the info from your family and also it came help you one if some does happen
I am new to this site and blogging in general but I find it helpful like you said to be able to express my frustrations with having diabetes and everything associated with the disease. I think it is good for you to express what you are feeling since a very common association is depression. Also it is very important to talk to other people with it whether it be good or bad because someone if not all of us have been there and may be able to offer tips and advice on how to stay on track and make better decisions with the diabetes. I can imagine how hard it is for a non-d person to understand everything we are going through because I have had it for 3 years now and still don't completely understand it completely. I think you should explain to your family members that it is easy for them to judge because it is not them however it is healthy for you to continue to express your issues. Explain that they need to be supportive and as long as you have not shut everyone out and stay on track most of the time then they should not freak out and get in the way. Try to find something to compare the difficulty in their own life with (of course without hurting their feelings). Such as a woman, I am sure she has been on a diet at some point and has failed (haven't we all) but just because she has failed does not mean she completely gives up trying to lose weight, which would improve her health. Just a suggestion, Good luck I hope you receive the support you need.