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January 8th, 2009
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"I don't care."


That has been a familiar phrase from my lips lately. My wife asks me how many Weight Watchers points a particular meal is when we go out to dinner and I will respond with "I don't care." That probably explains why I have gained two pounds over the past two weeks. I just do not care.


And with that I have not really calculated my carbs. I have been loosely guessing and then making major corrections 2 hours later. I am still checking my BG. I am not guessing on that. But I just feel so uninterested in my life right now. I know that makes no sense especially since I am writing about it now.


I guess I am looking for advice although I do not feel I am in a place to accept or follow any of it. Maybe I want to hear, "I've been there and its okay." Maybe that will make me feel better. I don't know.


The last two weeks have consisted of overeating, eating snacks and sweets like crazy, and avoiding exercise completely. All of these things I have decided to do on purpose. Not on a whim or just a "not thinking about it" moment. No, these decisions were all well chosen and thought of. I thought about the consequences to my health, my waist line, and my A1C and still I did not care.


I am tired, bored, fed up, hopeless, hungry, angry, and all around blah. I hate feeling so down and being such a bummer since I am usually the opposite. And as soon as I think that I also say, "I don't care."


Am I alone? Is it just this time of the year? Are any of you in this place of self sabotage and purposeful carelessness?


I should have called in sick today and just slept. Maybe I need more rest or something? I am so confused. I need to figure this out.


You know what?


I don't care.



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George, I know where you're coming from. I had 2 broken feet last winter and couldn't be bothered with anything. It was too hard to try to make meals that were balanced, let alone low-fat, I couldn't exercise, and (being Type 2) basically stopped taking my BG most days. When you wrote, "I am tired, bored, fed up, hopeless, hungry, angry, and all around blah. I hate feeling so down and being such a bummer since I am usually the opposite. And as soon as I think that I also say, 'I don’t care,'” it was like you reached inside my memory because that's the way I felt.
I talked to my doctors, who were only concerned with me exercising and didn't seem to care about my burnout. It was only after my feet healed (4 months) that I began to be able to do anything to help myself. I just started the stationary bike again, and my numbers are starting to get better and my outlook has improved.

Taking on Weight Watchers along with carb counting and all the rest of the diabetes maze had to be overwhelming. It might just not be the best fit for you, or talking to a dietitian about how to fit the two together more easily might be the jumpstart you need to get it going again.
The weather may not be helping, either. Some people stoke up in winter, but for some the transitional seasons are what drives the appetite.
Whatever the cause, you're definitely not alone. I'll keep you in my thoughts.


thank you for sharing your story. That does help.


Don't make me go Harvey on your a** (from celebrity fit club).
I get into the same funk as you're in now. I'm sort of in it now, but going to bodybuilding.com helps me a lot. They have "transformations" of people who have gone from overweight to lean and buff. I'm half in-half out of being disciplined. I'm not over eating as much as I could be, but I'm definitely over my points right now...and I sill have to eat dinner.
I think it would be easier to roll with it and accept that you're being apathetic. You'll eventually get sick of being that way and get on track again.


Thanks Shannon. Not being alone makes it better I think.


I've been there. It's Ok.

Ride the wave for a bit, then when your inner self tells you it is ready, fight the fight. It can be harder to push that snowball of motivation back up the hill, but it can be done.

We can't always go full speed in the right direction. If it weren't for hard times we wouldn't appreciate the good times.

Just don't let it go too far too long.


I am trying to make some better choices today but I keep saying "I don't care" to myself.

thanks man.


I would so like to not care....but, I have grandkids that I love....I wan to be around for them and to give them good memories....if you say you don't care....do you really....are are you just wondering "why me?"...are you still in denial...what ever the reason...you have to think of those that love you if not yourself....if it were the other way around would you want you wife to slowly kill herself or try to take care of herself so there would be more years together....I hate being a diabetic....it's with me every day....it's like a life sentence...but, if we try to take care of ourselves....maybe, there will be a cure and we can live just like everyone else someday....


kaylie12 - 9 times out of 10 I am the guy who says, "we can do it!" "things will get better!" " we have to push on!"

But being that optomistic all the time is impossible for me. Sometimes I let life take over just for a little while i hope.

Thank you for what you wrote. I need to hear those things. I know them but we all need a reminder. Thank you so much for that. Keep an eye out, I am sure I will be back to the George I prefer to be soon enough.


George,
Sounds like you have a case of 'diabetes overwhelmus' as Dr. Rubin so aptly describes it. I totally know how you feel. Don't beat yourself up-- it isn't your fault! All of this is just too much to cope with sometimes and we all need a break...but we can't have one! My favorite coping strategy is to try and take 'mini' mental vacations from diabetes. Since not testing/medicating/insulining/eating etc. isn't an option....I try to get all squared away in those departments and then I have about 2 hours where I try not to think of any of it and do something fun. I'll admit, some days I don't even have the ability to get all 'fixed up' ...those are the days when I don't know of anything that works. Oh, well! I'm a Christian and this is part of my life, so I try to see the good in it all that I can....and there is good. When I can't even do that, I just curl up in His lap and ride it out! Don't feel alone....we are here with you! You are going to be okay... and you'll feel like fighting again soon.
Mousie


Thanks Mousie. I agree that I will feel like getting back into the D-fight soon but for now, I feel defeated.


George, I read your post with understanding. You are not alone in being frustrated, angry and sick of diets and counting points (carbs, whatever).
I started using a loosely constructed WW program counting points (not carbs) in October of last year when my A1C was at 8.4. I didn't go to meetings or actually join, but had joined a few years ago and had a point counter and books. I'm not really weighing myself, but my clothes are practically falling off and my last A1C was at 6.7. (I'm a type 2 and I've been able to reduce my nighttime insulin from 36 units to 16 units).
I don't count carbs. I've increased my fiber intake dramatically by snacking on lots of veggies, increasing my veggies at meals, using Sara Lee's Delightful Wheat Bread (2 slices are just 1 point and make a good sandwich), using Trader Joe's eggplant hummus and salsa as a veggie dip, using Healthy Choice sugar free fudge bars (1 pt. each... I have more than one a day usually), Lays Baked potato chips (weighing them!!!) once a day and I've reduced my protein intake dramatically. I'm eating 3-4 oz. of chicken rather than 1/4 of a chicken and eating beef only on rare occasions. I'm using all of my weekly 35 bonus points. I've fought it for years, but I'm now recording everything I eat, counting points, in a small spiral notebook.
It may be a pain, but my diabetes has never been in better control. For me the key has been not doing this for weight loss (though I'm losing), but to get my blood sugar under control. It's been worth the hassle. When I wake up and my sugars are 90 instead of 220, I can't tell you what a difference it makes in my day.
Good luck!!!


Boy, Do I understand!

I have felt that way for sooooo long. I haven't even been testing. I hate this! But I know I cann't keep it up. I'm starting an exercise program Wed. and keeping that damn book of what I eat. You know this is what it is and we just have to keep going.

But right now I don't care either!


Wow. To think that that sounds crazy, I've been in that same problem. Maybe you're just feeling low all the time, or your body is making you want to go really high. When that happened to me, it turned out I'm naturally always hungry!


Diabetes burnout is real - and it's normal. There have been studies documenting it. I have had type 1 for 36 years, 14 of those years with an insulin pump. I go through a burn out period every couple years or so. I am in one right now actually. I get to the point that I am sick and tired of worrying about my feet, my eyes, my kidneys, my cholesterol, my gastroparesis, my A1C, my low BGs (I have hypoglycemic unawareness), my celiac disease, my log book, etc. Normally, I carefully calculate my carbs whenever I eat anything and I check my blood sugar a minimum of 8 times a day. During burn-out times though, I tend to guesstimate my carbs or snack without counting them at all and I slack off testing to 3 or 4 times a day. Burn-outs always seem to hit me during the winter months, but not every winter. I am hoping when spring finally arrives for more than a day at a time, I'll pull myself up and out of my diabetes crater.

Hopefully you can pull yourself up and out of it soon too!


oh my gosh. i signed on to this site in the hopes of getting some encourgement and inspiration, i need help too. is there someone out there who has not gained weight while on insulin??? please advise


I have lost 40 pounds while on insulin so it does work. I was just in a bad place when I wrote this. It is possible though, do not give up!


wow thats awesome, i'm at a good point now but i just started the insulin and i'm so afraid its going to make me fat that i try not to take it but once a day. so how did you lose the weight?


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